Amiable Revolution

Welcome to your deprogramming. Brave being here now. Dive on in and enjoy the enlightening ride… 

As an introduction to the mindset for this intended philosophy, let’s play Define & Defy. 

Define & Defy is an outline for understanding concepts. It’s done when we make a definition of something, and elaborate on what something is not. 

Know that the entirety of this University is creative, flexible, evolving, and reflects the opinions of the author. Thus, as discernment is encouraged in any learning experience, remain aware of the subjectivity on this topic.  

Define: Polyamory - the word itself translates literally as, “many” “loves”. In context here, it is first an adjective, in characterizing itself as an identity trait, i.e. polyamorous. The verb form of the definition takes place in the joining of people choosing this identity.         

Defy: Polyamory -  the term has been associated as a description for a dating style; and as the opposite of monogamy, thus a moral taboo.     

The most vital point for the dynamic of Poly to operate and thrive is to remove from your brain it being all about sex. 

And invite the dynamic as a revisionist solution to some issues within society.

I must make clear that this project is not driven by sexual desires. My motivation is to emulate and advocate new ways of living, broader than the mainstream design of one spouse, two incomes, and their children to public schools. My mission is to deliver awareness beyond the illusory contentment inside capitalism and its comfort zones. My hopes are for an amiable revolution, in support of human nature. 

Your presence on this page reveals an interest in what could be possible through choosing a polyamorous path. I’m here in the same boat. This is not a persuasive essay; I aim to collaborate in an experience that I too am navigating newly. This is a piece of artwork in words, made to bridge likeminds. This is reading material for interpersonal experiences. I admit, I’m open-minded about who I see myself with, and about how to work/play in unique relationships. I only for certain know that my direction is away from the dangers and troubles of any behavioral cycle or general system that does not serve my authenticity to its best state of being. Directionally, same for you.

In advocating polyamory as a practice between a group sharing one lifestyle (theirs), a foundation is formed. Key to this, as a sustainable source for those footing it, would be the unioned belief of its necessity; in spite of a foundation distinguished in dependency- financially or emotionally- on one partner or spouse, and/or the reliance in one module of business/economy. Let that sink in. 

I’m saying, a key factor, maybe even a requirement, for paving polyamory, is one’s own commitment to it reasoned by their feelings against the conventional path. The true incentive in poly is rooted in the unsubscription to the belief that we are allowed one spouse and one professional role, and have to fit inside the boxes of relationships as we have been trained to. 

We are connect based on favorable settings and status, just as much as we move in manners influenced by unfavorable factors. Essentially, the polyamorous identity is discovered in those who desire to represent communal living together. Those who aren’t settling quite right with the limits of what is considered “standard”, realize much of the normalization we’re floating along in is from capitalistic and religious oppression among us. 

Polyamory can be a mode of activism. My guidance is to drop your guise of “normalcy”. The standard has demanded our participation in it. Limitless, outside the box, opportunities arise in the uncapping of who we can be and what we can do, together. 

Liberation goes deeper than sexual. The kind of space I’m creating, on the internet and upon lands, is for a mindset… shared by a growing community, with safe venues for the communal values. 

My quest is to look at what is absent in our word and make it present.   

Let’s unveil ourselves from hiding inside the systems and structures that keep us from unlocking a better future, due to the accessibility and gains we deserve (individually and collectively) from the power poly gives to the people. Let’s snap intergenerational curses with our display of keen emotional intelligence in poly. Let’s have fun, procreate, and exemplify the best of this ideology, embracing a message for Many Loves as a central theme for our one wild and precious lifetime on this planet.    

Here are points worth making, as you meditate on your journey with polyamory as a self-describing term: 

Define: A polyamorist is…

• Proponent of the idea that one exclusive life partner sells us short of all potential we could have with more than one life partner.

• Experiencer of many loves throughout life so far. Most likely, you already have a handful of people who you've shared love with; most likely not simultaneously or interactively. An expansion of this common worldly experience can be enhanced with mutual will and communication skills.

• Anybody who says so. Appearance can be any race, gender, age, physical looks; and poly is one trait within a multidimensional personality.  

• Someone committed to Self-Love, first, then enthusiastic to have that ripple into meaningful connections.

• Dreamer of an alternative lifestyle to mainstream culture. Dedicated to this dream long-term.

Defy: A polyamorist is not…

• In it for multiple sexual companions. Or anybody looking for hookups, or using the word as a code to take advantage of anybody else, either for physical or materialistic reasons.

• Built for monogamy. Meaning, it is my belief that many people are innately wired for partnering with only one person. Which is cool! I trust people know themselves well enough to say they prefer the responsibility of a relationship to be between two exclusively. Valid! Like I said, I hope to set the stage for a viable reality supporting people who feel within their own truth that engaging in a poly dynamic is most fulfilling. I have no problem with monogamy for those who are happy in it; I just wanna invent a realistic platform for myself and those who relate to being poly as their happiness. 

Thank you for reading. The curiosity which delivered you here could be the portal to a more rewarding life. I’m a writer from a place of a quasi-career in the field of Polyamory. I’m not interested in money, nor interested in some kinda sexcapade somebody might presume when they hear that word. This blog is, pun intended, a labor of love. It is purposeful in that my intentions are to be on an adventure with this niche topic and let it carry me to where polyamorous living is celebrated. I am proactive, being the change, working on placing stepping stones for the imagined life I see myself in. This is for readers with their own stepping stones. Oh, look… alignment :)